Hip hip hooray I am 21 weeks today! I cannot believe in about 19 weeks Oliver Bruce will grace us with his presence and JJ will have his little brother! The weeks are actually flying by. Well, the first trimester did lag, but now that we are in the second and almost into the third the weeks are going by.
Ninang Jenny and Ninong Jun are in town from Maryland. They will be staying for the long weekend. It was so awesome to see JJ with his Ninang (Godmother in Tagalog). Today was the first time they met and of course JJ was such a sweetheart and gave his Ninang a kiss and his Ninong a high five.
Today was another hot day...so hot that I was dripping sweat just by sitting down! UGH! I am over this heat. Pregnancy and heat really do not mix. I am so glad Oliver will be born in the Winter time. But until then I must endure this crazy Summer in San Diego.
\xoxo
Friday, August 30, 2013
Thursday, August 29, 2013
Hot hot heat!
I am so over the heat here in San Diego. This morning hubby texted me a photo of himself and it was snowing in the background! Through out the day there it rained and was cool. Of course in San Diego, CALIFORNIA it is really hot.
To beat the heat, JJ played in his baby pool! He loved it and he was nakey.
Also, I had a Mommy moment with my baby boy today. Grandma and JJ were dancing to music from a movie that was playing while I was sitting and watching. JJ turned around reached out his hands for me, I took them, got up and we started dancing together hand in hand. It was such a beautiful moment! I was so happy he wanted me to dance with him. I love him so much.
xoxo
To beat the heat, JJ played in his baby pool! He loved it and he was nakey.
Also, I had a Mommy moment with my baby boy today. Grandma and JJ were dancing to music from a movie that was playing while I was sitting and watching. JJ turned around reached out his hands for me, I took them, got up and we started dancing together hand in hand. It was such a beautiful moment! I was so happy he wanted me to dance with him. I love him so much.
xoxo
Wednesday, August 28, 2013
Balboa Park
Today was such a beautiful day in San Diego and really hot. Grandma, JJ and I spent a few hours in Balboa Park where we met up with a lovely Mama friend and her beautiful daughter.
JJ had fun running around and wearing Grandma and me out. The heat was also killer but it was worth it all.
At the end of the day my little one was ready to relax at home.
xoxo
JJ had fun running around and wearing Grandma and me out. The heat was also killer but it was worth it all.
At the end of the day my little one was ready to relax at home.
xoxo
Monday, August 26, 2013
True Colors
I have typed, erased and re-typed this blog post. I do not want to stoop down to peoples level by completely putting people on blast on the internet whether it is via a social network or a blog post. It is not worth it. But I feel I need to get some things off of my chest...
When someones true colors arise, what can you do? and why does this person feel the need to make it a point in their life to bring down someones good standing with mutual friends?
I find it absolutely ridiculous that this person has made it a point in life to make it known that the life this person is living is perfect and a damn good person. If you are a genuine person and you have a happy life, you would not have to make it known. People just know it because you radiate it and you live it by example.
What ever happened to having true friends that you can turn to for an ear to listen, a shoulder to lean on and no matter the break in between friendship, at any given moment you can call this friend and just pick up where you left off? What happened to those kind of friends? I still have a few but they are hard to come by nowadays.
A real true friend will not make mutual friends choose a side, by saying negative things that are not true. It is so sad and I feel sorry for this person. I have completely moved on and have not once went to a mutual friend and tried to make them choose. That is not what a friend does.
As I sit here drinking my decaf coffee and reflecting on what has happened between this said friend...I am glad to know this persons true colors. In the end, the only people that matter are the ones that bring positive energy in my life.
xoxo
When someones true colors arise, what can you do? and why does this person feel the need to make it a point in their life to bring down someones good standing with mutual friends?
I find it absolutely ridiculous that this person has made it a point in life to make it known that the life this person is living is perfect and a damn good person. If you are a genuine person and you have a happy life, you would not have to make it known. People just know it because you radiate it and you live it by example.
What ever happened to having true friends that you can turn to for an ear to listen, a shoulder to lean on and no matter the break in between friendship, at any given moment you can call this friend and just pick up where you left off? What happened to those kind of friends? I still have a few but they are hard to come by nowadays.
A real true friend will not make mutual friends choose a side, by saying negative things that are not true. It is so sad and I feel sorry for this person. I have completely moved on and have not once went to a mutual friend and tried to make them choose. That is not what a friend does.
As I sit here drinking my decaf coffee and reflecting on what has happened between this said friend...I am glad to know this persons true colors. In the end, the only people that matter are the ones that bring positive energy in my life.
xoxo
Sunday, August 25, 2013
Cloth Diapers!
This Momma is going back to cloth diapering her littles.
When we moved to Oregon back in June of 2012, I learned a lot about babywearing and cloth diapers. I absolutely love wearing JJ in an Ergo and I loved cloth diapering him.
I started cloth diapering JJ when he was six months old. It was so awesome because hubby was on board too. We used Fuzzibunz (one size) and Bumgenius 4.0's (one size). Then I tried flats...and loved them! Flats and covers is by far my favorite system. I like pockets too, but microfiber inserts suck to wash.
We stopped cloth diapering (cd'ing) when JJ was around 11 months. I washed his flats with his pockets and the flats were smeared with Desitin (diaper rash cream). Desitin is not cloth dipaer friendly. During the wash the Desitin mixed with the diapers and made them water resistant. I stripped them multiple times and finally got them back to the way they were. BUT I have not used them since I stripped them and they have been sitting in a plastic bin. They are currently in Oregon with hubby.
Since we are in San Diego the water is hard. With hard water there is build-up in washing cloth diapers. In Oregon it was easier because the water is soft. Well, with hard water I decided we will cloth diaper Oliver and JJ using organic cotton prefolds/flats and covers. Easier to wash and way cheaper than buying pocket/AIO diapers
I did place an order through a co-op on Facebook. I ordered four newborn all-in-one diapers and the brand is THX. A knock off version of Little Joey's. I figured I will order a little at a time, every month until Oliver is here. Hubby is flying down from Oregon so I will have him bring a few of JJ's pocket diapers.
I am very excited to starting
CD'ing again :)
JJ in his very first cloth diaper - September 14, 2012
xoxo
When we moved to Oregon back in June of 2012, I learned a lot about babywearing and cloth diapers. I absolutely love wearing JJ in an Ergo and I loved cloth diapering him.
I started cloth diapering JJ when he was six months old. It was so awesome because hubby was on board too. We used Fuzzibunz (one size) and Bumgenius 4.0's (one size). Then I tried flats...and loved them! Flats and covers is by far my favorite system. I like pockets too, but microfiber inserts suck to wash.
We stopped cloth diapering (cd'ing) when JJ was around 11 months. I washed his flats with his pockets and the flats were smeared with Desitin (diaper rash cream). Desitin is not cloth dipaer friendly. During the wash the Desitin mixed with the diapers and made them water resistant. I stripped them multiple times and finally got them back to the way they were. BUT I have not used them since I stripped them and they have been sitting in a plastic bin. They are currently in Oregon with hubby.
Since we are in San Diego the water is hard. With hard water there is build-up in washing cloth diapers. In Oregon it was easier because the water is soft. Well, with hard water I decided we will cloth diaper Oliver and JJ using organic cotton prefolds/flats and covers. Easier to wash and way cheaper than buying pocket/AIO diapers
I did place an order through a co-op on Facebook. I ordered four newborn all-in-one diapers and the brand is THX. A knock off version of Little Joey's. I figured I will order a little at a time, every month until Oliver is here. Hubby is flying down from Oregon so I will have him bring a few of JJ's pocket diapers.
I am very excited to starting
CD'ing again :)
JJ in his very first cloth diaper - September 14, 2012
xoxo
Thursday, August 22, 2013
20 Weeks
Today is the half way mark! My OB appointment this morning went really well. Oliver's heart beat sounded so beautiful and his heart rate is where it should be. Beating strong!
My blood pressure has been fantastic. I have been eating clean and def not stuffing my face like I did when I was pregnant with JJ. I do have my days when all I want to do is just eat and eat. Then I have days where I do not really have an appetite. Obi is picky. Hahaha.
After my appointment I met up with my Dad at Seafood City off of Mira Mesa Blvd. He got off work early and had a company event to attend in Del Mar. So we met up to eat and hang out for a bit. Then we went our separate ways and I went to my interview!
Yes! This Momma had a job interview today with a company that is right next door to my old job. Hahaha!
I visited my old job and talked to my friends even for a few minutes.
The interview went really well. It was not even like an interview. The woman that interviewed me was awesome and we just talked for an hour. She said she does the screening first, get a feel for the candidate and then second interviews will be held by the head of HR. I hope I at least get a second interview.
JJ kissed baby tummy today and he also ate with a fork for the first time! Well he has before with assistance. This time he did it all on his own!
Today was a fantastic day!!
xoxo
Monday, August 19, 2013
A Day Out
Today we took JJ to Parkway Plaza to ride the carousel, plus Grandma needed to return something and we picked up clothes and a toy for JJ.
He ran around, we had some yummy treats from Cinnabon and did a little shopping.
Here is a video of Nana and JJ on the carousel.
xoxo
He ran around, we had some yummy treats from Cinnabon and did a little shopping.
Here is a video of Nana and JJ on the carousel.
xoxo
Thursday, August 15, 2013
19 Weeks
We are almost half way through this pregnancy! This pregnancy is way different than when I was pregnant with. My JJ was a mover. My little Obi is more active at night and when I am usually relaxed.
I started feeling flutters at around 12-14 weeks which is normal for second pregnancy. We probably will not be seeing my baby belly physically move from Obi's moves until after 20 weeks. I am a plus size Mama so it is not as noticeable yet. With JJ it was not until after 20 weeks we saw baby belly move.
I have been craving Filipino food like I did with JJ. But my appetite is not as big. I have not been gaining weight drastically, just a pound here and there. I am definitively still within my weight gain limit of 10-15lbs. I did lose a few pounds two weeks ago.
Certain smells makes me nauseous and want to yak, but I have not thrown up in a while. Decaf coffee is a no go for me unless it is blended decaf coffee.
Physically I am good, my only issue is the leg cramps I get at night. I started having them when I ran out of my regular prenatals and started taking ones from Walmart (store brand). I did pick up my new supply of Melaleuca prenatals and have a second supply OTW. No cramps last night since I did take them after dinner.
I have not been bloated! Well, at least not yet. I'm hoping it is not as bad the further I am along since I am not working and not going to on-site school. I have been taking a lot more naps lately since JJ has been getting back into napping.
My high blood pressure is under control! I am still on the same medication that I was on when pregnant with JJ. But this time around I am on a lower dose. My BP readings have been pretty darn good.
With JJ my water broke at 38 weeks and we had an emergency c-section because the Bandl's ring around my uterus was preventing my cervix from contracting. JJ was pushing to go out but my cervix was not opening up for him. Every time I contracted his heart rate went up and I had a fever.
Now that we know my uterus is not capable of handling a natural birth, we will have a scheduled c-section for Oliver. I am hoping instead of 37 weeks (full term) we could go to 38 weeks, possibly 40 weeks. I do plan on asking my OB at my next check-up.
I have been napping with my little munchkin so that has been helping with keeping my BP low. Per my OBs instructions - nap as much as possible during the day. Definitely not arguing with that.
I am feeling fantastic! :)
xoxo
Tuesday, August 13, 2013
Put it out there!
*Side note - these are my own thoughts*
Over the years social media has gotten popular and for lack of a better term - addictive.
We post our entire lives on the net, from tweets to FB status updates, checking in via Yelp or FourSquare, posting pictures to websites, sharing your life via blogs (like what I am doing). It is endless.
I do believe social media gives people power. The power to type what ever they want and not care what people think or say. Grant it...sometimes the way people are online are exactly the same in person and not all people are that way in person.
Why do we post every single detail of our lives via the World Wide Web?
I am putting my life on my blog, mostly for my family (Mom, bro, Hubby...) to read and to just document what goes on in my life. Document with words, pictures and video. It is a great way to look back at awesome memories.
As soon as technology upgrades, social media updates. We can do more at our fingertips now than we could 10 years ago. Right now, I am blogging from my iPhone.
Twitter is one platform that has gained huge popularity. You have 140 characters to say what you want to say. Bloggers, YouTubers, businesses, and celebrities use it to get themselves out there. The more followers the better.
It also a place for people, like myself, to just vent (tweet) away. People will tweet about their opinions on certain subject matter and share what they did that day. I like to share random stuff, especially when it comes to my adventurous and amazing toddler.
Facebook is a great place to share pictures with family and friends. I like FB for Mommy groups, keeping in touch with fellow military wives and childhood friends.
Social media gives people power to be strongly opinionated. You just have to remember (I have to remind myself too) - people's opinions do not matter, it is their business.
So where I am going with this topic/post?
Just remember it is ONLY social media. Make it fun and do not let ANY ONE put you down via any social media platform. Share what you want to share, be confident in what you are sharing and whatever people share whether it is about you or not, do not take it to heart. Let them say what they want, in the end you know who you are. I have to remind myself this as well.
xoxo
Over the years social media has gotten popular and for lack of a better term - addictive.
We post our entire lives on the net, from tweets to FB status updates, checking in via Yelp or FourSquare, posting pictures to websites, sharing your life via blogs (like what I am doing). It is endless.
I do believe social media gives people power. The power to type what ever they want and not care what people think or say. Grant it...sometimes the way people are online are exactly the same in person and not all people are that way in person.
Why do we post every single detail of our lives via the World Wide Web?
I am putting my life on my blog, mostly for my family (Mom, bro, Hubby...) to read and to just document what goes on in my life. Document with words, pictures and video. It is a great way to look back at awesome memories.
As soon as technology upgrades, social media updates. We can do more at our fingertips now than we could 10 years ago. Right now, I am blogging from my iPhone.
Twitter is one platform that has gained huge popularity. You have 140 characters to say what you want to say. Bloggers, YouTubers, businesses, and celebrities use it to get themselves out there. The more followers the better.
It also a place for people, like myself, to just vent (tweet) away. People will tweet about their opinions on certain subject matter and share what they did that day. I like to share random stuff, especially when it comes to my adventurous and amazing toddler.
Facebook is a great place to share pictures with family and friends. I like FB for Mommy groups, keeping in touch with fellow military wives and childhood friends.
Social media gives people power to be strongly opinionated. You just have to remember (I have to remind myself too) - people's opinions do not matter, it is their business.
So where I am going with this topic/post?
Just remember it is ONLY social media. Make it fun and do not let ANY ONE put you down via any social media platform. Share what you want to share, be confident in what you are sharing and whatever people share whether it is about you or not, do not take it to heart. Let them say what they want, in the end you know who you are. I have to remind myself this as well.
xoxo
Truth be told...
I cannot breathe! Darn my small nose and when it gets stuffy...it sucks big time! Almost 2am and I am now wide awake, bladder is empty and nose is still stuffy.
I have been thinking a lot lately, way too much in fact. Thinking about situations that will never have an answer to some of my questions.
A few weeks ago a certain situation arose and truth be told...it hurt. Then again, truth always does! It is unavoidable at times and sometimes it is needed.
What more can one do when situations like that happens? Just move on right? Even though the end result is confusing?
One of my many flaws (is that the right word? haha) was pointed out to me and it came in two different scenarios. Outcome for both - change.
Relationships changed and I am no longer trusted. Trust has been lost - how do I feel about that? I was sad. Do I feel bad? Yes, of course! I did not mean to open my mouth, sometimes I just talk without thinking and it bit me in the booo-tay. Is it the end of the world if a couple of people out of a world of people do not trust me? No, it is not the end. It just means some people do not trust me. Will I get their trust back? Probably not.
I have come to realize that situations like this was a first for me. It was overwhelming especially with these preggie hormones on high, but with the support of my darling husband I was able to put a handle on it hahaha. Kind of. It took me a while to figure things out - lay low and just keep to myself or tackle the situation head on - it was hard for me to figure out what to do.
I was told to "grow up", but it is funny - when do we ever grow up? People use that phrase loosely. Some do not understand that people have to find out what works for them in handling life's many challenges/obstacles. What works for one, may not work for another. I believed it was best to just keep to myself, that is what would have worked for me. Then I was told that I was "running away" from my problems if I kept to myself because no one is pushing me away, but to me it was not running away. I did not see it that way. Not everyone is the same.
I am still growing up! Every day we get older and every day we learn something new about ourselves and about the world that surrounds us.
I have finally learned when it comes to life's lemons, you just pick it up and make more than lemonade (lemon pound cake sounds yummy right now mmmm).
I am sinner just like every one else, I will make more mistakes in my lifetime and all I can do is learn from them and hopefully to never make the same mistake twice, thrice, etc (LOL!). That is what makes us human. Live and learn!
A friend wrote me and I mentally kept note of it -
"it's not the mistakes that define you, it's how you grow from your mistakes that mold you."
End result - surround myself with positivity, take the negative and turn it into something positive. What is the positive outcome here? I have learned to change for the good, grow from my mistakes and keep on living.
xoxo
I have been thinking a lot lately, way too much in fact. Thinking about situations that will never have an answer to some of my questions.
A few weeks ago a certain situation arose and truth be told...it hurt. Then again, truth always does! It is unavoidable at times and sometimes it is needed.
What more can one do when situations like that happens? Just move on right? Even though the end result is confusing?
One of my many flaws (is that the right word? haha) was pointed out to me and it came in two different scenarios. Outcome for both - change.
Relationships changed and I am no longer trusted. Trust has been lost - how do I feel about that? I was sad. Do I feel bad? Yes, of course! I did not mean to open my mouth, sometimes I just talk without thinking and it bit me in the booo-tay. Is it the end of the world if a couple of people out of a world of people do not trust me? No, it is not the end. It just means some people do not trust me. Will I get their trust back? Probably not.
I have come to realize that situations like this was a first for me. It was overwhelming especially with these preggie hormones on high, but with the support of my darling husband I was able to put a handle on it hahaha. Kind of. It took me a while to figure things out - lay low and just keep to myself or tackle the situation head on - it was hard for me to figure out what to do.
I was told to "grow up", but it is funny - when do we ever grow up? People use that phrase loosely. Some do not understand that people have to find out what works for them in handling life's many challenges/obstacles. What works for one, may not work for another. I believed it was best to just keep to myself, that is what would have worked for me. Then I was told that I was "running away" from my problems if I kept to myself because no one is pushing me away, but to me it was not running away. I did not see it that way. Not everyone is the same.
I am still growing up! Every day we get older and every day we learn something new about ourselves and about the world that surrounds us.
I have finally learned when it comes to life's lemons, you just pick it up and make more than lemonade (lemon pound cake sounds yummy right now mmmm).
I am sinner just like every one else, I will make more mistakes in my lifetime and all I can do is learn from them and hopefully to never make the same mistake twice, thrice, etc (LOL!). That is what makes us human. Live and learn!
A friend wrote me and I mentally kept note of it -
"it's not the mistakes that define you, it's how you grow from your mistakes that mold you."
End result - surround myself with positivity, take the negative and turn it into something positive. What is the positive outcome here? I have learned to change for the good, grow from my mistakes and keep on living.
xoxo
Monday, August 12, 2013
08.08.2013 - 18 Weeks
I forgot to post this! This was taken the day we found out we are having Oliver Bruce Miller.
xoxo
xoxo
Friday, August 9, 2013
Ultrasound
Yesterday morning I had an appointment for my level 2 ultrasound. My Mom and JJ came along.
I was super excited to find out what we were having. Baby is good! Everything checked out normal.
At first baby was shy but after a little shaking from the U/S technician baby let us see what was between the legs!
Say hello to - Oliver Bruce Miller
Hip hip hooray we have another BOY on the way!!!!
Yep, the other ultrasound pictures I have clearly shows that there is a big something, something between the legs. There is no denying that I am carrying a little boy.
Hubby and I are are so excited! JJ is going to have a little brother and we shall nickname him - Obi.
My two boys...JJ and Obi. I am so in love. My babies are my heart.
xoxo
I was super excited to find out what we were having. Baby is good! Everything checked out normal.
At first baby was shy but after a little shaking from the U/S technician baby let us see what was between the legs!
Say hello to - Oliver Bruce Miller
Hip hip hooray we have another BOY on the way!!!!
Yep, the other ultrasound pictures I have clearly shows that there is a big something, something between the legs. There is no denying that I am carrying a little boy.
Hubby and I are are so excited! JJ is going to have a little brother and we shall nickname him - Obi.
My two boys...JJ and Obi. I am so in love. My babies are my heart.
xoxo
Thursday, August 8, 2013
Fun in the Sun
Yesterday was such a beautiful day in San Diego. The sun was shining and the sky was bluer than blue. I enjoyed the day with my darling JJ and my aunt by the pool. It was JJs first time in a big boy pool.
Here are some photos that captured our fun day -
xoxo
Here are some photos that captured our fun day -
xoxo
First official post...
The posts before this one are from my other blog -
www.themillerslovestory.com - I wanted to start a new blog with a new domain, but keep all my old posts from my old blog.
So here is my first official post on this blog -
I was inspired by a friend to start a new blog where I can motivate myself and express myself a lot more. A Wallflower in Bloom is a very fitting title. I have always been the one standing by the wall during dances in junior/high school. I have always had an inferiority complex and have always been introverted.
Now that I am a Mother, my perspective on life has changed. No longer will I be that girl in the corner. It is time to bloom.
A friend wrote me in an email - Our purpose in life is to thrive in our frequency. People will try to stop you or distract you but your destiny is never to falter, but to continue to thrive. - That made me realize that I was holding myself back by caring way too much in what people thought about me and letting it get the best of me.
I am surrounding myself with positivity and in this blog I will write and share my happiness with my family, happy-ness with myself and share the love that surrounds me.
xoxo
www.themillerslovestory.com - I wanted to start a new blog with a new domain, but keep all my old posts from my old blog.
So here is my first official post on this blog -
I was inspired by a friend to start a new blog where I can motivate myself and express myself a lot more. A Wallflower in Bloom is a very fitting title. I have always been the one standing by the wall during dances in junior/high school. I have always had an inferiority complex and have always been introverted.
Now that I am a Mother, my perspective on life has changed. No longer will I be that girl in the corner. It is time to bloom.
A friend wrote me in an email - Our purpose in life is to thrive in our frequency. People will try to stop you or distract you but your destiny is never to falter, but to continue to thrive. - That made me realize that I was holding myself back by caring way too much in what people thought about me and letting it get the best of me.
I am surrounding myself with positivity and in this blog I will write and share my happiness with my family, happy-ness with myself and share the love that surrounds me.
xoxo
Tuesday, August 6, 2013
The Future
This Thursday we find out how baby is doing and I will be 18 weeks pregnant. Hopefully baby cooperates and will let us see what is between the legs!
Hubby and I decided on the names for a boy and a girl -
Benjamin Bruce Miller
Emilia Danielle Nioko Miller
We are so excited to find out if JJ is having a little sister or little brother. He is going to be the best big brother ever. I can feel it, and I can tell because has such a kind and good soul. He is the sweetest boy.
I look forward to our family of three becoming a family of four, starting and finishing grad school, graduating with a masters degree, losing weight and getting into the best shape of my life and finding peace with myself. I look forward to having my family back together again as a whole. I look forward to pursuing my ultimate goal ;)
There is so much to look forward to in life and I am looking forward to overcoming all the challenges that will come my way. I have my husband and my babies and they are my motivation to move forward with my head held up high.
xoxo
Hubby and I decided on the names for a boy and a girl -
Benjamin Bruce Miller
Emilia Danielle Nioko Miller
We are so excited to find out if JJ is having a little sister or little brother. He is going to be the best big brother ever. I can feel it, and I can tell because has such a kind and good soul. He is the sweetest boy.
I look forward to our family of three becoming a family of four, starting and finishing grad school, graduating with a masters degree, losing weight and getting into the best shape of my life and finding peace with myself. I look forward to having my family back together again as a whole. I look forward to pursuing my ultimate goal ;)
There is so much to look forward to in life and I am looking forward to overcoming all the challenges that will come my way. I have my husband and my babies and they are my motivation to move forward with my head held up high.
xoxo
JJ's 1st Pediatric Dental Appt
JJ did so well at this appointment today. He did have his first dental screening on July 5th when we had our WIC appointment. I made an official appointment not too long after. They pretty much did the same thing - brushed his teeth with fluoride and then checked his teeth. The dentist said to brush his teeth (which we do) every day.
JJ did not cry nor fuss. He is such an awesome boy. Love him to death!
xoxo
JJ did not cry nor fuss. He is such an awesome boy. Love him to death!
xoxo
Sunday, August 4, 2013
Marriage and Pornography
This is an interesting topic. It came up in a conversation via text messages with a family member. I was told that it is funny that I got "worked up" over it, but I just wanted my family member to understand my point of view. But it was clearly stated by the end of the text conversation (by my family member) that I am "THAT insecure".
Here is my personal value/belief on the topic of pornography in marriage -
Everyone has insecurities and it is not funny to make fun of people because of them. Yes I have my insecurities, but they have nothing to do with me not wanting my husband to watch pornography.
When we got married I made it clear that I believe watching it individually is very disrespectful to me and to our marriage. Together, sure why not! But once you start watching it on your own for individual pleasure...it becomes disrespectful.
For some couples they enjoy it, I respect that. For others it is not okay. For my husband and I there is no pornography. I am the only woman that he should be thinking about and he is the only man for me. Hey if he wants some dirty pictures, I am more than happy to give him some (insert smile here) and vice versa. Our long distance marriage is tough and with technology today, sending each other videos and pics of each other keeps the spice alive.
So going back to what I was saying...
If my husband wanted to watch pornography then he should have not gotten married. I am blessed to have a husband that respects our marriage and respects me and my values. He has not watched any porn since we had our heart to heart. We are going on three years of being married. He is amazing. Yes, he is in Oregon and it is hard to know what goes on, but I trust him and have faith in him that he keeps his word. You just know with the one you love.
Because I do not want my husband to watch pornography DOES NOT make me "THAT insecure". It is OUR value in OUR marriage. We are committed to each other in love, trust and faithfulness.
No ones insecurities are greater than someone else's. An insecurity is an insecurity period. But it is NOT always the reason for a lot of situations. One being pornography and a significant other.
I posted in one of my Mom groups on Facebook about this conversation. The lovely mamas that did answer, believed in the same thing and some love watching it with their spouses. Every one has their own preferences. A lot of them said they are NOT insecure about themselves, they just believe porn is disrespectful in marriage. So, it is not just about being insecure.
What works for my husband and I may not work for another couple, but this works for US. We believe that it is not necessary to use in order to get it on behind closed (bedroom) doors.
xoxo
Here is my personal value/belief on the topic of pornography in marriage -
Everyone has insecurities and it is not funny to make fun of people because of them. Yes I have my insecurities, but they have nothing to do with me not wanting my husband to watch pornography.
When we got married I made it clear that I believe watching it individually is very disrespectful to me and to our marriage. Together, sure why not! But once you start watching it on your own for individual pleasure...it becomes disrespectful.
For some couples they enjoy it, I respect that. For others it is not okay. For my husband and I there is no pornography. I am the only woman that he should be thinking about and he is the only man for me. Hey if he wants some dirty pictures, I am more than happy to give him some (insert smile here) and vice versa. Our long distance marriage is tough and with technology today, sending each other videos and pics of each other keeps the spice alive.
So going back to what I was saying...
If my husband wanted to watch pornography then he should have not gotten married. I am blessed to have a husband that respects our marriage and respects me and my values. He has not watched any porn since we had our heart to heart. We are going on three years of being married. He is amazing. Yes, he is in Oregon and it is hard to know what goes on, but I trust him and have faith in him that he keeps his word. You just know with the one you love.
Because I do not want my husband to watch pornography DOES NOT make me "THAT insecure". It is OUR value in OUR marriage. We are committed to each other in love, trust and faithfulness.
No ones insecurities are greater than someone else's. An insecurity is an insecurity period. But it is NOT always the reason for a lot of situations. One being pornography and a significant other.
I posted in one of my Mom groups on Facebook about this conversation. The lovely mamas that did answer, believed in the same thing and some love watching it with their spouses. Every one has their own preferences. A lot of them said they are NOT insecure about themselves, they just believe porn is disrespectful in marriage. So, it is not just about being insecure.
What works for my husband and I may not work for another couple, but this works for US. We believe that it is not necessary to use in order to get it on behind closed (bedroom) doors.
xoxo
Thursday, August 1, 2013
17 Weeks and JJ turning 16 mos!
First off JJ turned 16 mos on 07.30.2013 -
We had a Mommy/Son date and we had a great time!
Today 08.01.2013 -
Hip hip hooray I am 17 weeks today! One week from today we will find out if we are having a boy or girl! That is if the baby cooperates and spreads the legs. Hahaha. I am super excited! Plus I cannot wait to find out how he or she is doing.
xoxo
We had a Mommy/Son date and we had a great time!
Today 08.01.2013 -
Hip hip hooray I am 17 weeks today! One week from today we will find out if we are having a boy or girl! That is if the baby cooperates and spreads the legs. Hahaha. I am super excited! Plus I cannot wait to find out how he or she is doing.
xoxo
Vlogs?
I think I will give vlogging a go again. Now that I am expecting #2 and have a wonderful 16 month old...life is definitely more interesting.
xoxo
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